What We Tell Ourselves



Our behavior is largely related to conditioning from our past.

We therefore often cope with internal struggles through learned behaviors to food, alcohol, tobacco and other substances that are destructive when we overindulge.

When I speak to patients in my practice and inquire about how their habits arose, I often discover that many are learned from an early age (especially habits regarding food).

To change these destructive habits, we have to retrain our subconscious mind.

This subconscious mind is the part of our mind that “holds” our beliefs of the world and ourselves and interacts with the external world by way of our actions.

To change our subconscious mind we have to change the words we tell ourselves.

We do not realize the power of these words or what we tell ourselves even though they illustrate our beliefs and come out in the words we say.

These thoughts and beliefs also keep us in a place of stability and comfort, despite being unhappy at that place.

How to Change what You Tell Yourself

These following techniques give you the tools you need to tell yourself a different story from the one you have been reciting so that you can change destructive habits.

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1. Be Set Free Fast

I discovered a technique called “Be Set Free Fast,” which was developed by psychologist Larry Nims, Ph.D.

You can do the technique on your own or seek a therapist trained in it to lead you through it.

2. Emotional Freedom Technique

Another technique that can help change your subconscious mind is called Emotional Freedom Technique or The Tapping Solution.

EFT involves gently tapping certain points on your body when you are anxious or stressed. These points are called meridians in acupuncture and they facilitate healing. Tapping them helps mediate the stress response which is mediated through the amygdala in the brain.

What do you say to yourself that keeps you trapped in your old story?

What techniques have you found to rewrite the story?


  1. I have a friend who is a hypnotherapist and as she did her training, she shared a lot of what she learned about our beliefs and how our conscious/subconscious mind works. It’s amazing what stories we tell ourselves which aren’t exactly true when we delve into them with the help of someone who has been trained in how the mind/body connection works. I have not experienced EFT, but I have experienced EMT (eye movement therapy) which I thought too simplistic but found that oftentimes the simple readjustment is what is needed.

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